Anger Management Program -
Syracuse
Two Day Program
Most
anger addicts are unwilling to face the true depth of their
problem. In the parlance of the recovery movement, they live in the
middle of a river in Egypt called “De-Nial.” Their tendency
to blame others for their outbursts and to minimize the seriousness
of the damage they are causing makes it difficult to motivate them
to work for lasting change. The goal of the Anger Buster™
Two-Day Day Program is to totally immerse participants in every aspect
of the Anger Buster™ program so that they may confront
denial, accept responsibility for controlling their anger, become
fully fluent in the Anger Buster™ concepts, and gain
intensive hands-on experience in applying these concepts in their
own lives.
Anger
addicts can change, given the proper motivation, tools and strategies.
This Program
provides a step-by-step process that will help them to control their
anger and begin to change their anger patterns.
OBJECTIVES
Using
the Anger Buster™ ABCs of anger
control (Abstain, Believe, Communicate), participants will:
- Be
challenged to get out of “De-Nial” River by using two
anger assessment tools to uncover their own blind spots.
- Be
introduced to the Fight or Flight model for understanding the way
anger works, and compare that to the model of the Anger Pressure
Cooker.
- Be
presented with a list of 16 angry
behaviors to abstain from, in order to turn down the fire under
their anger pressure cooker. Working through a detailed analysis
of recent anger events, participants will review, re-script and
role play numerous events in order to fully master Anger Buster™
principles and skills that can help them avoid banned behaviors
in the future.
- Be
encouraged to embrace a belief system that values 20 important attitudes
and values, thus disabling some of their anger triggers. After gaining
a basic understanding of the difference between religion and spirituality,
participants will review, re-script and role play several recent
anger episodes in order to master Anger Buster™ principles
and skills that can help them respond to stressful situations, using
beliefs and attitudes that are safer and more constructive.
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Be guided toward a new way of communicating that emphasizes winning
against anger by learning how to “lose,” when conflicts
arise as a result of inappropriate expressions of anger.
Participants will practice using specific phrases in a wide range
of typical anger scenarios to gain experience in expressing
themselves in ways that are safer and more helpful.
- Design
a recovery
plan to continue working on their anger following completion
of the Program, and make a formal commitment to diligently work
on this plan for the next 90 days.
CONTENT OUTLINE
-
Program Introduction – What Is Anger?
-
Swimming in “De-Nial”
- Disposing
of excuses
- The
Johari Window
- Bullying
and Scapegoating
- Telltale
signs of rageaholism
- Anger
Assessment Survey
- Why
expressing anger is bad for anger addicts
- The
Fight or Flight Syndrome
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The Anger Pressure Cooker
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The more you do what you always did …
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Abstain from these behaviors
- 16
behaviors to stop doing immediately and why
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Conduct a personal evaluation to identify the things that make
you mad and compare that to the behaviors you exhibit when you
are angry.
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Identify the five “banned behaviors” you exhibit
most often.
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Review all rage events that have taken place in the previous
two months, searching for clues that would warn of approaching
trouble, and identifying banned behaviors involved.
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Rewrite all of those scenarios, using Anger Buster™
principles to script a different outcome
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Role play new scripts for each event to practice new skills
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Write three scripts for potential anger events, designing safer
responses based on Anger Buster™ principles. Discuss choices
and role-play outcomes.
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Homework: Share questionnaires and progress chart with spouse
to gain additional feedback for next day’s session
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Believe in these principles for peace, happiness and permanent change
- 20
principles that will help anger addicts to change the way they
view the world, themselves and those around them.
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Explore the differences between religion and spirituality.
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Review the way in which our assumptions and beliefs influence
emotions and actions.
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Using a self-evaluation tool, identify five principles from
the list of 20 that you need to apply most often.
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Examine three recent anger episodes that might have been avoided
if you had been practicing each of these values, identifying
underlying beliefs that hindered constructive, safe choices.
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After identifying the underlying negative beliefs and attitudes
that contributed to the problem, rewrite and role-play the script
in a way that reflects the use of appropriate attitudes and
beliefs selected from the list of 20.
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Design and discuss three scenarios in which you might have an
opportunity to respond with actions based on the five attitudes
or beliefs you need to work on most. Chose one to role-play
as a way of practicing these new attitudes.
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Explore opportunities to practice forgiveness in present and
past relationships
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Assess the balance between work, leisure and spirituality in
your life
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Homework: Share pertinent worksheets and questionnaires with
spouse to gain additional insights and feedback for next day’s
session.
- Communicate
using these phrases to avoid creating an anger crisis
- The
principles of deep doghouse communication and shallow doghouse
communication – 21 phrases that can help get you out of
the doghouse
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How to recognize which house you are in, and which phrases to
use depending on what house you are in.
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Learning to lose as the first step in winning against anger
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Break into groups to practice using the CBSSW phrases in scenarios
designed by group members
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Play “psychological ping-pong” with group members
to train yourself in agreeing instead of arguing
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List complaints your spouse typically makes about you, and write
responses expressing agreement. Role-play with group
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How to avoid the wrong way of apologizing
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Examine two recent arguments to identify what you said and did
to end up in the deep doghouse, then rewrite the script using
approved phrases that might have kept you out of the doghouse
and avoided an argument
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Review all arguments or events that still require an apology
and design appropriate responses using shallow doghouse principles.
Role-play some apologies and plan time and place for presenting
them to spouse
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Practice “mirroring” – the art of listening
before answering, as a way of improving effectiveness of communication
with spouse and others
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Road To Recovery
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Learning the art of appealing to spouse, boss and others instead
of arguing
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Create a 90-day plan for working on anger
- Formal
commitment to follow that plan with an accountability partner
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