Anger Management Program -
Manhattan, NY
Anger
Management One-Day Class
Most anger addicts are unwilling to face
the true depth of their problem. In the parlance of the recovery movement,
they live in the middle of a river in Egypt called “De-Nial.”
Their tendency to blame others for their outbursts and to minimize the
seriousness of the damage they are causing makes it difficult to motivate
them to work for lasting change. The goals of the Anger Buster™
One Day course are to help participants confront denial, accept responsibility
for controlling their
anger, become fully fluent in the Anger Buster™ concepts,
and gain some hands-on experience in applying these concepts in their
own lives.
Anger addicts can change, given the
proper motivation, tools and strategies. This course provides a step-by-step
process that will help them to control
their anger and begin to change their anger patterns.
OBJECTIVES
Using the Anger Buster™ ABCs of
anger control
(Abstain, Believe, Communicate), participants will:
- Be challenged to get out
of “De-Nial” River by using two anger assessment tools
to uncover their own blind spots.
- Be introduced to the Fight
or Flight model for understanding the way anger works, and
compare that to the model of the Anger Pressure Cooker.
- Be presented with a list
of 16 angry behaviors to abstain from, in order to turn down the
fire under their anger pressure cooker. Working through a detailed
analysis of recent anger events, participants will review, re-script
and role play these events in order to master Anger Buster™
principles and skills that can help them avoid banned behaviors
in the future.
- Be encouraged to embrace
a belief system that values 20 important attitudes and values, thus
disabling some of their anger triggers. After gaining a basic understanding
of the difference between religion and spirituality, participants
will review, re-script and role play recent anger
episodes in order to master Anger Buster™ principles
and skills that can help them respond to stressful situations using
beliefs and attitudes that are safer and more constructive.
- Be guided toward a new way
of communicating that emphasizes winning against anger by learning
how to “lose,” when conflicts arise as a result of inappropriate
expressions of anger. Participants will practice using specific
phrases in typical anger scenarios to gain experience in
expressing themselves in ways that are safer and more helpful.
- Design a recovery plan to
continue working on their anger following completion of the course,
and make a formal commitment to diligently work on this plan for
the next 90 days.
CONTENT OUTLINE
Course Introduction
Swimming in “De-Nial”
- Disposing of excuse
- The Johari Window
- Bullying and Scapegoating
- Telltale signs of rageaholism
- Anger Assessment Survey
- Why
expressing anger is bad for anger addicts
- The Fight or Flight Syndrome
- The Anger Pressure Cooker
- The more you do what
you always did …
- Abstain
from these behaviors
- 16 behaviors to stop
doing immediately and why
- Conduct a personal evaluation
to identify the things that make you mad and compare that to
the behaviors you exhibit when you are angry.
- Identify the five “banned
behaviors” you exhibit most often.
- Review two recent anger
episodes, searching for clues that would warn of approaching
trouble, and identifying banned behaviors involved.
- Rewrite those scenarios,
using Anger Buster™ principles to script a different
outcome
- Role play new scripts
to practice new skills
- Write a script for a
potential anger event, designing safer responses based on Anger
Buster™ principles.
- Believe
in these principles for peace, happiness and permanent change
- 20 principles that will
help anger addicts to change the way they view the world, themselves
and those around them.
- Briefly explore the differences
between religion and spirituality.
- Review the way in which
our assumptions and beliefs influence emotions and actions.
- Identify five principles
from the list of 20 that you need to apply most often.
- Examine two recent anger
episodes that might have been avoided if you had been practicing
these values, identifying underlying beliefs that hindered constructive,
safe choices.
- After identifying the
underlying negative beliefs and attitudes that contributed to
the problem, rewrite and role-play the script in a way that
reflects the use of appropriate attitudes and beliefs selected
from the list of 20.
- Design and discuss strategies
for employing positive beliefs and attitudes when responding
to future encounters.
- Explore opportunities
to practice forgiveness in present and past relationships
Assess the balance between work, leisure and spirituality in
your life
- Communicate
using these phrases to avoid creating an anger crisis
- The principles of deep
doghouse communication and shallow doghouse communication
– 21 phrases that can help get you out of the doghouse
- How to recognize which
house you are in, and which phrases to use depending on what
house you are in.
- Learning to lose as the
first step in winning against anger
- Playing “psychological
ping-pong” to train yourself in agreeing instead of arguing,
working with complaints my spouse typically makes about me
- How to avoid the wrong
way of apologizing
- Examine a recent argument
to identify what you said and did to end up in the deep doghouse,
then rewrite the script using approved phrases that might have
kept you out of the doghouse and avoided an argument
- Review recent arguments
that still require an apology and design appropriate responses
using shallow dog house principles
- Road
To Recovery
- Create a 90-day plan
for working
on anger
- Formal commitment to
follow that plan with an accountability partner
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